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Thursday, February 7, 2013

Does Anyone Even Talk About This?

I'm not gonna lie, I don't really want to talk about this. It's one of those Pandora's-box kind of topics wherein, once it's open, you can't gather up the contents and put it back in the box without leaving remnants of its existence.
But it keeps harping at me. It keeps scratching at my heart's door. It keeps showing up. Why?
Cuz I have this job, I have bills, I have responsibilities. Unless I hit the lotto or until my life takes a sharp turn, for the time being in this season of my life, I have to keep showing up at my workplace, every single day, five days a week, eight hours a day.
I have a potty mouth.
And even though I don't use my potty-mouth as much as I used to a year or two ago, it's there. And I'm working on cleaning it up.
I know nobody's perfect. We're ALL flawed humans and that's not going to change. We're going to make mistakes and that's okay. This post is not meant to judge, although it might be interpreted that way.
Some people reading might struggle with other human conditions of weakness that I don't struggle with. See? We all have issues. Let's not forget that.
But here's my problem..... ugh! This is not easy for me to say. Cuz I work with the some of BEST people around. They are like my family. I spend more time with them than I do with my own husband and children.
I am lucky to have such great co-workers. Seriously. Over the years, I have grown quite close to a few of them. The thing is, they all have potty-mouths.
Not in front of customers though. Just when there's downtime and they start chatting or making jokes. That's not even the real problem.
Whether in the workplace or in some other public arena, we overhear conversations all the time. Some pleasant, some offensive. No big deal. That's life.
There real problem for me is two co-workers in particular, one man, one woman. Whenever the boss(es) leaves the office they take their potty-mouth to a whole new level. It's not chatty or jokey. It's raucous and hateful. Their swearing and cussing is so overly-gratuitous, it almost feels like I'm listening to a performance.
Unfortunately, my office is closest to their chatter. Today it was so bad, I had to close my door and turn up my (easy-listening) music. I have no intention of saying anything, cuz that never ends well.
But I can't help but wonder, what am I supposed to be drawing from this situation? Patience? Tolerance? Reminders to about my own potty-mouth? Oiy! I just don't know.
Have you ever felt like someone was daring you to say something to them? What would you do?

P.S. I struggled to come up with a title. So I gave up ;-)


Nikki said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

I don't know what you are talking about, potty mouth?? what's that? HA!!! Actually I do know. I've always been a fan of the potty talk and in my mind I prefer it, but you have to be good at it and some people are not good at it and they need to stop. My husband is one of those. When he tries to call someone a potty name, I tell him, no dude....that doesn't work when you say it. Some people get over zealous in their crudeness and there is a difference in a potty mouth that knows when to stop and one that doesn't. I hear you on that one. I am pretty good at shutting down and being nice Nikki who can control her pee-pee tongue etc, but not always. I say just tune them out and keep the peace. They'll clean up as you participate less. It's a natural reaction. :)N

FIREBIRD said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

While I don't have a problem with an occasional one of George Carlin's 'forbidden words' used for emphasis, when you only use THEM for your adjectives, it truly shows ignorance and a limited vocabulary. When your do-workers start that stuff, just turn and walk away - they MAY eventually get the message.

FIREBIRD said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

OOPS! Krap - that would be CO-WORKERS! hahaha!

Pedaling said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

I probably fit into the category of Nikki's husband, I don't really know how, so I just don't.
There's a couple of pg-13 words I use about 3 or 4 times a year, but that's about it for me.

namaste said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

nik, hahaha! pee-pee mouth! so funny! tell rob, no worries. i'm starting to sound like him lately. cuz that's how uncomfortable i get sometimes when i'm trying too hard to keep up with my peers. thanks for your the feedback and advice.

firebird, yes so true about using those words for adjectives. not cool at all. thanks, i'm staying away.

pedaling, that's a good thing! i've been told it does not sound good on women.

mCat said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

I have the potty mouth down to a fine art, and am often deferred to in situations in which a harsh word is needed but no one else has the guts to say it. I have to confess that in my home my boys understood that with the exception of the F-bomb and uses of Diety, everything else was fair game. So, in turn I breeded a bunch of potty mouths.
I figure there are worse demons to battle. I don't get offended by anything other than Diety uses. And then, I'm usually obnoxious enough to say something. Of course, totally passive agressively - but I get my point across. And then I learn who I need to be careful around with my own language. But for a giggle, I bore my testimony on Sunday and FROM THE PULPIT, used "crap", "Freaking", "self-righteous" and "judgy mcjudgerpants"

I'm securing the safety of my husband ever being called as Bishop. I make him thank me daily.

namaste said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

mcat, BEST comment prize for this post goes to YOU! what i wouldn't give to have been able to be sit in your ward, hearing your testimony. that's hilarious! oh yes, splenda owes you big time! hahaha!

Granny Annie said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

We all let loose a few choice words now and then but people just filling the workplace with such blather is irksome. You might tape it for them one day and then play it back. Perhaps they don't realize how annoying they are. Of course you might end up in jail for taping them without their knowledge....

Just a conservative girl said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

I really, really, really depise swearing. So your office would be a difficult environment for me. I would talk to them and see what happens.

Pedaling said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

M-Cat is hilarious! \

saw this post this morning and made me think of you.

Ron Russell said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

In a related subject, Ted Nugent, who is a National Rifle Association board member said that President Obama and Attorney General Eric Holder are "promoting" racism and that the Obama administration has a "RACIST AGENDA."
Nugent made his comments during a radio interview. And Nugent said, “The nation is divided, and it's never been more divided. The racism that President Obama and Eric "Gunrunning" Holder promote is just heartbreaking and it's tragic and those of us that know better have got to constantly expose their ruse and their scams and their racist agenda.”
Nugent, also claimed that real Americans are "working hard, playing hard, and that African-American rappers appearing on TV are "big uneducated greasy black mongrels."
Well, at least he's telling it like it is and not holding back, and his comments on rappers is basically correct. Ted Nugent nailed it, I agree with everything he said.
Every day there is attack on traditional American values by these Progressive radicals and the ACLU, these CREEPS are destroying our country.
Did you see the Grammy Awards last night? Where the Award for Rapping went to the Racist Pigs. Singing on a Nation-wide stage while spewing the word nigger and babbling about drugs, guns, bitches!!
These untalented, ungrateful organ grinder's monkeys are lucky to have a category at all
Let me add that the libtards, have spent decades coddling our youth, refusing to hold them to American standards and values, and giving them everything for nothing. It seems as if hard work is a dirty word. And now we are endorsing pot smoking! Hows that! This country needs to get their heads on straight, and they can start by stopping this Socialist agenda of Obama.

Darth Bacon said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

I absolutely think that we should take a lesson from the Democrats and welcome all these rappers, gang bangers, illegals, crack heads, prostitutes, welfare cheats,illegal Alien moochers, lazy food-stamp collecting bums and others like them , into the Republican party with open arms.

Because without them our beloved GOP is doomed .. As we saw in the past 2 elections technically it works!

A-Kap said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

oooooohhhhh are a sweet sweet soul. I am finally coming up for air and catching up on my two favorite blogs -- yours and Pedaling. I read your blog about you being baptized a while ago and wanted so much to comment...but didn't have time to say all that I wanted to say. I still don't. But, I want you to know that your posts made my day today. I can relate to so many things you wrote it's ridiculous I don't know you in person. I was baptized when I was 23, I am now 44, and my family is still not Mormon. However, I've been married 10 years and my hubby was just baptized last year! It was such a beautiful time for me to be a part of his conversion. His family doesn't know I'm mormon -- or that he is now -- because if they did, it would be a hurtful situation. That's why I can't talk about my religion on my blog -- although I would love to! However...what you have wrote in your last few posts are EXACTLY how I think, how I feel and what I would love to write. Thank you for sharing. And as for swearing...I am like Pedaling in that I rarely if ever swear, but I have a full appreciation for potty mouths and their ability to "get it all out". HOWEVER, as in the case of your two co-workers, it can cross a line. In which case, I curl up inside my head and think, "bummer for them they have to do that, I'm so very thankful I don't." I don't know why, but this has always helped me in all of my many, many "oddball" years....

A-Kap said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

Oops...just re-read my post...I hope you know I can speak proper English...I of course meant "what you have written". My kiddos are arriving home from school so I'm typing too fast.... ;-)